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Getting a jumpstart at our semi-independent living program

jump-start-semi-independent-living-programJumpstart Semi-Independent Living Program for Boys is a program designed to help youth jumpstart their lives. Located in bustling and artistic Hyattsville, Maryland, this historic home provides a structured, rigorous, and goal-oriented program for young men ready to embark as independent, mature community members. The program is structured around giving young men the freedom to make positive and sound choices, develop a sense of responsibility, and take control of their lives. With professional staff providing 24-hour supervision and behavioral role modeling, this program provides the consistency and continuity that allows our young men to develop skills necessary to become productive, responsible, and engaged community members.

Jumpstart group home offers support for up to eight adolescent males between the ages of 17 and 20 years old from all parts of Maryland. Individuals typically reside in the home for nine to twelve months, and up to two years. Jumpstart provides the following benefits:

  • Individual, family, and group therapy targeted to building a strong personal identity, pride, self-esteem and confidence
  • Employability development and placement with potential career development
  • Educational advocacy and support
  • Case management, referral and coordination for health services, substance abuse treatment, family therapy, and additional necessary services
  • Recreation and constructive use of leisure time
  • Life skills training to support self-sufficiency

From the moment a new resident arrives, staff at Jumpstart work to get them into school or a job and help the residents find their voices. Jumpstart staff explain that the young men need to learn that they have a choice every day to invest in themselves, and that staff at Jumpstart are listening.

While the youth are discovering their voices and developing their sense of responsibility, the Program staff have observed that the young men also need inspiration to get out of the house. “The time spent in detention teaches the boys to stay inside, we want to get them out and reconnected with the community.”

Group activities, like basketball games, are a great way for the youth to get to know each other and develop a sense of community. When the group plays basketball together, they are having fun, seeing the program staff like family members, and respecting each other.

Another group activity that the young men love is cooking. Most of the residents who come to the home say that they do not know how to cook. The boys tend to trail behind Mike when he goes into the kitchen. When he starts cooking, the boys start asking questions. He casually explains what he’s doing and asks for their help getting some spices or rinsing the meat, walking them through his recipe. Often he makes it a comical experience, pretending they are putting on a cooking show, so the youth enjoy it and get engaged.

Usually the young men at Jumpstart are employed or in school, or both, within a month of entering the program. Throughout their time at Jumpstart, staff give the young men positive reinforcement and recognize their talents, to help the youth realize what they bring to the table and the possibilities that are available to them.

“All the kids want is for you to spend some time with them. When they act out they just want someone to listen and engage with them. Sometimes the boys run away from the family environment staff creates at Jumpstart because they are not used to it. They self-sabotage because they are afraid of recognizing that someone cares.”

Nevertheless, the Jumpstart program staff are dedicated every day to helping the young men realize they have a voice, they are respected, they are heard, and they are supported. The goal of the program is for each young man to achieve success, change, and confidence and leave the program as independent, productive young adults.

Thank you Women’s Club of Chevy Chase

IMG_1596The Women’s Club of Chevy Chase (WCCC) has supported Hearts & Homes for many years with monetary and in-kind donations as well as volunteering on special occasions. Toward the end of 2014, WCCC Service Chair Marilyn Sherman noticed that Hearts & Homes needed suitcases and so in 2015, the WCCC started a donation drive to collect gently used small to medium-sized suitcases, travel, and duffle bags for the youth to transport their belongings. Hearts & Homes recently met with the WCCC to gather the donated travel bags and thank the group for their ongoing support.

WCCC member Thelma Mrazek has been a member of the WCCC since 1992 and was previously on Hearts & Homes’ Board of Directors, before we became Hearts & Homes. She recalls, in the late 1990s, someone mentioned the Boys & Girls Homes (our former name) was looking for people to serve on the Board of Directors. She volunteered, joining our Board and serving as the Chairman of the Board from 2000 to 2001. She explained that the organization was renamed Hearts & Homes for Youth during that time because “people were confusing us with the Boys & Girls Clubs, which had a strong promotional campaign underway.”

We are all glad that our organization was renamed because it is a perfect fit for what we do!

Thelma recalled her most memorable moment with Hearts & Homes was an event where young men gave testimony to the difference made to their lives when they were placed in our care at our group homes. “They spoke of how it encouraged them to seek education or training and shaped them to be responsible citizens, holding good jobs and having families of their own.”

Hearts & Homes is grateful for these long standing relations with supporters like Thelma Mrazek and the WCCC, who have a rich understanding of the children in our care and our mission.

Brandeis National Committee donates household items

imgresSuzanne Giacalone came to Hearts & Homes today on behalf of Brandeis National Committee with a large donation of household items. The donation is greatly appreciated as we are always in need of household items for the youth who come through our doors.

Brandeis National Committee is dedicated to providing philanthropic support to Brandeis University, a distinguished liberal arts and research university founded by the American Jewish community. Its membership is connected to the university through fundraising and through activities that reflect the values on which the university was founded: academic excellence, social justice, nonsectarianism and service to the community.

History of Brandeis National Committee

Founded in 1948, Brandeis is the first Jewish sponsored, nonsectarian university in the United States. Brandeis reached the pinnacle of American higher education by earning Phi Beta Kappa recognition for 13 years, the youngest university to be honored in this manner since the 18th century.

The life of the mind is central to this institution. As a small, vigorous research university, Brandeis combines the education and teaching normally found at small selective colleges with superb facilities and renowned faculty usually found on the at the largest research universities.

As one of the youngest and smallest of the research universities, it has a remarkable record of accomplishment. The Rosenstiel Basic Medical Sciences Research Center’s interdisciplinary approach to combating diseases has greatly expanded the scope of leukemia research, pinpointed an on/off switch in diphtheria and rendered more effective mammography machines. Research in the Volen Center’s Memory and Cognition Lab focuses on how memory and mental processes change across the adult lifespan. The Hadassah-Brandeis Institute develops fresh ways of thinking about Jews and gender worldwide by producing and promoting scholarly research, artistic projects and public engagement.

Our Greater Washington Chapter is one of 1 00 chapters across the continental United States and Hawaii. Through fundraising ventures, we share the common goal of encouraging the growth of Brandeis and its libraries in addition to the Science for Life Center. Our strong leadership and membership, with close to 800 members, enable us to be a highly successful chapter of the Brandeis National Committee. This year, our chapter specifically is prioritizing fundraising for research on neurodegenerative diseases.

Harriet Tubman Day – an activist and a humanitarian

1000509261001_2105718965001_Harriet-Tubman-Statue-in-HarlemToday is the 98th anniversary of Harriet Tubman’s death in 1913. The date was designated as national Harriet Tubman Day in 1990.

As for many, Harriet Tubman is an inspiration for everyone at Hearts & Homes. In her memory, we opened the Harriet Tubman Emergency Shelter in a targeted attempt to reduce the number of African-American young men being incarcerated in a lock-up, lock-down, detention center (juvenile jail) when they pose no serious threat to the community while awaiting a court hearing.

The youth that are placed at the Harriet Tubman shelter are referred to us by the Department of Juvenile Services. Hundreds of young men from across the state, amounting to thousands of days, have stayed at our shelter where they have received residential and supportive services.

Consistently, after being placed in our care, most of the young men went home or to a community based program or facility like the group homes we operate. It is clear everyday that believing in these young men, giving them the tools create opportunities for themselves, and supporting them in a home-like environment rather than locking them up, helps them get themselves back on the right track.

We call the shelter our “Over Ground Railroad to Freedom,” even Justice.

Ours is a living tribute to Harriet Tubman’s legacy as we celebrate now and for years to come, her courage and self-sacrifice, which led thousands to freedom. Ours is to lead thousands of youth to the freedom perhaps otherwise denied to them; to learn, to grow, to mature, and to become responsible adult citizens of the community. Ours is to provide a safe, secure, and disciplined shelter home; an opportunity to realize their potential and dreams. Ours is to purposefully interrupt the first stop on the train to criminalization – incarceration prior to juvenile court hearings of those who are not a threat to the community. Ours is to put them on a train to a bright, productive future. Yours is to help us keep that train on the right track. Bless you, Rex Smith

The importance of communication

_photo06_f0_2a_dab57f378615__1326928849000Effective communication is an essential skill to develop in order to have a healthy family relationship.  Communication is just that – a skill that can be developed.  So, if your relationship with your family is not at the level that you would like for it to be, do not get frustrated or give up!

You can exercise and develop the muscle of effective communication just as you would exercise and develop any other muscle.  In order to be physically healthy, you would need to exercise your entire physical body.  In the same way, in order to be relationally healthy, effective communication will also require you to exercise your entire body.

YOUR EARS.  Good communication is dependent upon your ability to listen.  Hearing is different than listening.  Being able to hear does not mean that you have developed the ability to listen.  You may be able to hear what a person is saying without really listening and allowing what that person is saying to have an impact on your understanding of that person’s experience.  For this reason, it is often that parents may exclaim in frustration to their children, “You are not listening!”  The problem is not that the children cannot hear their parents; the problem is that the children are not listening.  Hearing is passive.  Listening is active, and therefore requires action.  As you listen to the people in your life, remember to ask yourself, “What action should I take based on what I hear this person say?”

YOUR TONGUE.  It has been said that the “power of life and death is in the tongue.”  While the tongue may be one of the smallest parts of the body, this tiny muscle truly does have the power to change a person’s life – for better or for worse.  Before using your tongue, always remember to THINK:

Is it…

  • True
  • Helpful
  • Inspiring
  • Necessary
  • Kind

YOUR EYES.  What can be said about the eyes? In the ugliest of times, the eyes are always a source of beauty. They are said to be the window into a person’s soul. They produce the power of sight. However, with this power comes great responsibility. The simple courtesy of looking someone in the eye when addressing them or while listening to them is a gesture that should not be taken lightly.

YOUR HEART.  Honesty is important not only for yourself, but for effective communication with a loved one.  Speak from the heart.  Listen from the heart.  Love from the heart.  Any communication offered or received in honesty and in love will make a difference in your relationship.

As with any exercise routine, it is important to remember that consistency is key.  The greatest gift you can give to the people in your life is to consistently communicate your love and gratitude to each of them.  What is one way that you can say, “I love you,” with your ears, with your tongue, with your eyes and with your heart today?

The lean, not so mean, three bean chili

FullSizeRenderHere is a recipe for some mild chili for you and your family to enjoy making together! It’s a recipe for quality family time with a tasty reward at the end!

Ingredients

Half an onion, chopped
2 tablespoons of olive oil
1 pound of ground turkey
1 teaspoon of minced garlic
1 teaspoon of chili powder
1 teaspoon of crushed red pepper
2 teaspoons of oregano
1 cup of tomatoes, diced
1 can of roasted diced tomatoes
2 cans of navy beans
1 can of black beans
1 can of kidney beans

Directions

  1. In a stockpot over medium heat, saute the onion in oil until tender, about 4 minutes. Add the next five ingredients; stir around and cook until the meat is no longer pink. 
  2. Add the tomatoes; cover and cook on medium/low heat for 5 minutes. Stir in the beans and salt/pepper if desired; simmer for 30-45 minutes or until heated through. Yield: ~16 servings

Turkey minestrone – a soup to warm you up in chilly weather

Here is a recipe shared by Caitlin from Hearts & Homes for a Turkey Minestrone soup to enjoy with family and friends!

IMG_1105Ingredients

Half an onion, chopped
2 tablespoons of olive oil
1 pound of ground turkey
1 teaspoon of parsley
2 teaspoons of minced garlic
1 teaspoon of oregano
1 teaspoon of basil
1 teaspoon of sage
1 teaspoon of thyme
1 cup of tomatoes, diced
6 cups of chicken or vegetable broth
1 medium zucchini, sliced (and halved if necessary to make it bite-size)
2 stalks of celery, sliced
2 carrots, sliced
1 can of navy beans

Directions

  1. In a stockpot over medium heat, saute the onion in oil until tender, about 4 minutes. Add the next seven ingredients; stir around and cook until the meat is no longer pink. 
  2. Add the tomatoes, broth, zucchini, celery, and carrots; cover and cook on medium/low heat for 5 minutes. Stir in the beans and salt/pepper if desired; simmer for 30-45 minutes or until heated through. Yield: ~16 servings

 

Our guiding values

Girls2The following seven values guide all decisions and actions of Hearts & Homes for Youth:

  1. Family is the best support system and the root of our identities. We care for our youth in a stable, disciplined, nurturing space, doing all that we can to provide a homelike environment and family while they are in our care. We also provide family therapy, in addition to individual and group therapy, to help build relationships with immediate or extended family members.  Sometimes family relationships are built with foster parents or with friends – the important thing is that the youth understand they have a support system when they leave our care.
  2. Community is fundamental to our happiness, motivation, and well-being. It provides us with a sense of belonging, a sense of responsibility, and the assurance of support when we are in need. We help the youth develop a sense of community through group activities, outings, and therapy. We help the youth understand their place in the community such as through volunteer activities, getting them into school, getting them into the workforce, and inviting mentors and volunteers to spend time with the youth.
  3. Dignity, the sense of pride in oneself, is critical to the ability of the youth in our care to get themselves back on their feet and back on the right track. Activities such as the Princess Party and Kings of Style Party are examples of how we help the youth develop their dignity but it is a priority every day, in every interaction.
  4. Fairness in the way our youth are treated is important because they are building an understanding of their place in the community and they need to realize that they have the same rights and obligations as everyone else.
  5. Opportunities for the youth to engage in cultural, educational, recreational, vocational, and social activities are character building experiences that are fundamental to self discovery and success in life.
  6. Respect is critical to the development of one’s self esteem, self confidence, and self worth as well to their ability to be respectful in kind.
  7. Trust is earned; we work to earn the trust from our youth, so they believe that we have their best interests at heart. In turn, we trust that the youth will become ever more dedicated to themselves and their futures.

Hearts & Homes on the Hill

4Today Hearts & Homes held a reception at the House Office Building in Annapolis where we shared our work with old friends and new supporters. We enjoyed a delicious barbecue lunch provided by Red, Hot & Blue and spoke with Maryland’s delegates, senators, aides, and interns about our programs, the youth we serve, and how they can get involved.

The reception was held in Room 170, hosted by Hearts & Homes supporter Delegate Kirill Reznick. We were fortunate to have the support of his engaging staff members who helped us greet guests such as delegates Brett Wilson, Barrie Ciliberti, Kevin Hornberger, Tony Knotts,  Seth Howard, Angela Angel, Johnny Mautz, Diana Fennel, Vanessa Atterbeary, David Moon, Guy Guzzone, Sheree Sample-Hughes, and many others.

Some of the guests wrote caring and supporting notes on a poster board for the youth. Hearts & Homes will frame this poster and hang it at our office for all the kids to see.

The children in our care understand the words of support and you can see in their eyes the difference it makes. We are grateful to the delegates, senators, aides, and interns who took the time to come learn more about Hearts & Homes and the children in our care, and for sharing their words of encouragement and support.

Before the reception, Hearts & Homes attended the Morning Session at the State House. We were very moved by one of the lines in the opening prayer: “each day is a gift, each hour a blessing.” These words align with our mission, to treat as child in our care as if they were our own, and is a great reminder that time is precious. We look forward to working together with our senators and representatives to serve our communities and to make a better tomorrow for the youth in our care.

 

Sharing cases of love

20150304_110058_resizedComfort Cases is a charity organization founded by adoptive father of four Rob Chasteen-Scheer. Rob, himself a former foster youth, decided to be a foster parent and was startled when two foster children came to his home with all of their belongings fit in two trash bags.

Rob recalled, “The night of Amaya and Makai’s arrival, we took the siblings shopping and Amaya picked out a pink Cinderella nightgown. She was thrilled to choose it on her own.  Later that night, we watched her from the doorway, looking at herself from every angle in the mirror. Amaya had a smile that was brighter than the sun; she was in her brand new pajamas that were only hers.”

Rob and his husband welcomed two more foster youth into their home, and they too arrived with nothing more than a trash bag full of used clothing. From this, Rob was inspired to found Comfort Cases, to provide youth entering foster care with something comforting, of their own.

Rob says, “With the staggering number of children that enter the foster care system, we as a community can make a difference while they are on their journey.”

Comfort Cases cites that thousands of children in the Washington Metropolitan Region enter the foster-care system each year. Most carry little more than the clothes on their backs.

Today Comfort Cases came to Hearts & Homes with 95 comfort cases to pass on to our kids. Comfort Cases has been a generous supporter of Hearts & Homes for quite some time, supplying us with comfort cases containing a pajama set, stuffed animal, toiletries, a blanket, art supplies, and a journal for the foster youth in our care.

Comfort Cases is on a mission to make sure that no child arrives at a foster home with nothing of their own. There are a staggering number of children in the foster care system and we can make a difference in their lives. Click here if you would like to support Comfort Cases with a monetary or in-kind donation.